FAQ’s about Kylie Travers! There are questions that are asked over and over. Here they are with simple answers:
How did you overcome… (insert obstacle eg homelessness/domestic violence/paralysis/borderline personality disorder/cancer scare…)?
The past few years have been eventful, often traumatic, however I viewed each thing that happened to me as a separate incident instead of lumping them all together. I have a good support network and I have two daughters. My daughters have been my motivation behind everything I do.
I wanted my daughters to have a better life, I wanted to be an example and show them that no matter what happened in life, you can overcome any obstacle and turn it into an opportunity. I also didn’t realise until I was out of my marriage how bad things were. I strongly believe in having an attitude of gratitude, setting goals (my 10 steps to success with goals is a great guide for how I do it), I have a vision board, affirmations and I focus on being an example for my daughters. I chose to not look at my situation and what was happening most of the time, although I had plenty of moments where I sobbed my heart out.
I focused on where I wanted to be, the life I wanted and what steps I had to take to get there. Think about what is within your control and what is not. If it is within your control, do what you can to make the outcome what you want. If you cannot control it, leave it alone and put your energy into what you can control. Also, check out 7 steps to overcome obstacles.
How do you manage a work-life balance?
I didn’t have a work life balance for a long time and it took it’s toll on my health as well as made me feel guilty for not spending enough time with my daughters. I have a good balance now, I work when my kids are at school or in bed. I prefer to blend my life and make all aspects of my life work together instead of trying to balance it. I wrote about how I manage and why here.
I am a fan of outsourcing instead of doing everything yourself as well. You don’t need to do everything, it is ok to ask for help or hire help.
What is your favourite quote?
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ~ Carl Jung. I repeated this to myself constantly when going through the worst of it in 2012 and 2013. It has helped me be strong, focus on where I want to be and turn my life around.
Two other favourites are “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?” and “Luck is where opportunity meets preparation.”
What school did you go to?
I went to Caroline Chisholm High then dropped out of school in year 11 at Lake Tuggeranong College. I went on later to do a hairdressing apprenticeship and beauty therapy. I haven’t completed any other further formal education.
How did you get started speaking, writing etc?
I started with blogging and was approached to turn one of my blog posts into a book, followed by speaking and freelance writing. Upon leaving my abusive marriage and the events that followed, I started to share some of it online. When I arrived in Canberra I volunteered at a drop-in centre, then went on to do public speaking about homelessness and domestic violence. I love to focus on overcoming obstacles, goal setting and creating the life you want, instead of dwelling on my experience. I like to speak about the steps I took to get through that time and get me to where I am now.
How old are you? How old are your kids? Where do you live? Are you single?
I am 31, my daughters are 7 and 8 years old, I am not available. We live in Melbourne and love it here.
How are you so positive all the time?
I’m not all the time, I know I come across that way and have even had Uber drivers ask me how I’m so smiley. I like to smile, laugh, joke, muck around. I come across quite professional online whereas in real life I am down to earth. I don’t want to spend my days dwelling on the bad things. Life should be fulfilling and fun.
I aim to do a couple of things in every situation if I am upset by something:
1.) Pause. Take a breath. Do not react or respond immediately.
2.) Work out if it is truly about me or if it is circumstances outside of my control or if it is a negative comment/conversation aimed at me, is it really about me or are they projecting their issues onto me.
3.) Look at the lesson or what I can be grateful for in this experience.
What is your daily routine?
I don’t have a specific daily routine. I have things I do each day which enable me to achieve what I want to achieve, keep me grounded and ensure I spend quality time with my daughters.
1.) Time with my family. They come first and always will.
2.) 3 BIG things. Every day I have 3 things that must be done. They are my most important tasks. I work them out the night before so I know when I wake up exactly what I am doing that day.
3.) Meditate. This is sometimes only 10 minutes. I feel it when I don’t do it though.
4.) Check my calendar for the following day. We use a shared calendar so we know what we are all doing. It makes it easy to plan ahead, schedule time and say yes to things when they come up.
5.) Exercise. I am limited with what I can do at the moment, but I always make sure I do something. I love yoga, pilates, running, swimming, those sort of activities and we love kicking the footy around as a family.
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